5 Things Not to Do in a Relationship

Hello everybody, let me just dust off some dust from this page here a lil. *dust*..*dust*..*dust*.. Ahh there we go, how are you girls & boys? Hope your day has been spiffing, unlike me who is just laying in bed playing The new Sims Mobile, can I say it's super addicting! Have anyone started playing it yet or are you already on the 30th level and beyond? Well, I'm only at level 20 for now and my sims are happily married and with kids. Speaking of marriages, on the road to marriage or starting a relationships we often faced many sweet, sour, bitter and spicy moments; aren't I right?

Personally, I have been dating my beau for 4 years now; ain't too long but long enough for me to understand what are the top 5 things you should not do in a relationship to ensure a happier and healthy relationship with your partner. 

1. Never go To Sleep Angry

Don't ever leave a conversation or argument hanging and go do the Z's, either one of you might not have a good night sleep or no sleep at all. At the same time, your own mind will start a war on it's own; kicking and slamming yourself (Self-blame) or kicking and slamming your partner. Why do that when you both can just calm down and say 'I'm sorry, let's discuss on ______. tomorrow or on a day we are both in a clear mind.' Work things out as soon as possible or remind yourself ' Was that issue really that important and why was is important? What was the main reason for you or your partner to get upset of.'

2. Use Vulgar Languages or Rude Remarks

When in an argument or not you need to respect your partner, unless it's a joke that you two are ok with then, ok girrrllll do you tang.... 

But if that's not the case you should address your partner in the nicest way or the most common name you called each other it does not help by referring them to something else rather than the normal name you both are used to in an argument it will only make it worst, trust me. Here is an example, you cut yourself and it hurts and then you pour lemon juice on it, it hurts even more. That's one good example right there, why make the situation worst by name calling? So try and be nice, it will benefit both of you.

3. Bottle Up your Feelings

A relationship is a two way thing, you have been their ears and it's high time he or she be your ears. It is also not healthy to keep something that has been bothering you inside, you don't know when it might just explode and it won't be a nice site to visit. You should calm yourself down, gather your thoughts and speak you mind ( Kindly & Gently, no harsh words or rude remarks), plus only speak your point you don't need to season it with salt and pepper, you ain't cooking nothing. 

4. Lie

This is one of the biggest taboo in any relationships, lying. It ain't a fair relationship if either one is lying, white lies are still acceptable to not hurt their confidence; like lying that they look good that day in fact they don't; you know they have a rough day and doesn't  need another person giving them negative remarks. If you don't love them anymore or got bored of them better face it faster and end it first before going off with another person, the truth is way better than the lie. 

5. Play the Blame Game

If it's your fault just accept it, don't find your partner's fault to cover up your mistake. You ain't 5 anymore no more blaming the cat for eating the cookie you ate. Just apologise and move on it ain't that hard, rather then starting an argument due to your mind saying your never wrong. We're human we make mistakes unless you ain't human then I have nothing to say. The world would be a better place if people just owned up their mistake as I am still waiting for the person who ate my cake in the fridge to come clean.. 

With all that 5 things out of many, I would like to say I am not relationship shrink but boy, do I have experience this all. These are the 5 most important things that I feel one should not do in a relationship in order to keep the flames and mojo going. If you have any other point or comment, don't be shy to comment down below it may help other readers or even myself. 

till next time! xoxo